The Sacred Ritual

Sacrifice - for the sake of LOVE

In this particular matter, Sacrifice corresponds to gazillions of prototypes. Considering that most of us got ourselves involve with hickeys while still clutching a book-band, we’re probably equipped with at least a 2G memory worth of experiences of how we had to dramatically handle such predicaments that demands us to sacrifice in relationships.

Well, they say that; Love = Sacrifice.
That, I pretty much agree.. but due to aplenty perceptions and understanding, I got pretty confused with this one particular type…
how can anyone sacrifice by letting go of the person they love..? even more questionable when one does so to let their partner find happiness elsewhere..

Perhaps..dad’s would hav to go thru that phase and ‘sacrifice’ their daughter to a man he finally found faith in (probably after 3 times of thorough background-checking and auditing of all sorts of personal records) to continue loving his girl and provide him with mini living entertainments device that runs around on 2 legs (which doubles as twigs on the family tree.)

You see, theoretically (to my understandings at least), sacrifice demands an offering of something valuable.. life, fortune, soul, a month’s wage..etc in order to recover something even more worthy, u see..
That’s the whole point of sacrificing..without gaining anything in return, why would anyone wanna let go of their valuables..? That’s why ‘sacrifice’ is a good practice..cuz it brings benefit, it makes things better! To let go, and not hoping for anything in return is as good as doing charity..See?
And…in most cases, we give away unused item/extras/ items we don’t need for charity.

So, in dad’s case.. Sacrificing his daughter will bring him many great favors in return, extended family, happiness.. and not to mention the bliss of not having to deal with migraine on a weekly basis anymore after bein dislodged off a month-long-PMS-prone creature they call ‘daughters’

But for lovers? Yes, am sure u’ve heard a story or two frm them..Hypothetically how this guy who’s broke/not-ready/whatever had to let go of his girlfriend so she can pursue her dream of getting married and hav kids by year end..or maybe, a girl who had to let go of her bf because he wants a good wife n mother to his kids while her, bein a spoiled brat and can’t cook and clean to save her life, thought its only right to let him be happy with a girl who suits him better…(???)

I just think that it’s illogical..bull maybe.
In my opinion, if you love someone..whats the point of letting go? Rather than sacrificing your lover, why don’t you sacrifice your own time and energy or money even..to try your very best to be the one to fulfill whatever vacant spots needed to bring happiness to your partner. Wouldn’t it be more meaningful to be the person credited to make that happen? Instead of letting go (sacrifice la konon) and let someone else deal with that..sounds a lil selfish and irresponsible, isn’t it?

Perhaps, if your lover claim that it’s a ‘sacrifice’..what they really meant was ‘Ive given up’
Perhaps, when your lover claim that it’s a ‘sacrifice’.. whats really going on is, they’ve already foresee a possible chance of happiness with that other person they’ve been secretly dating while with u..

Maybe…quite rational kan?

If that’s the case, why can’t they just be straight forward and say smtg like ‘I don’t think this is working’ instead and save us all the telenovela bimbangs, correct?.

And..shall we put a lil bit of thought into it..
WHAT IF, even if it’s mutual that u both agree that letting go is the best way to settle ur issue, and after u’ve declared ur sacrifices, both of u couldn’t find the make-believe happiness elsewhere..and WHAT IF, by the time u realized that by years that has gone by, uve already hav 3 kids and still keeping thoughts to yourself day in, day out, IF ONLY these 3 kids are products of u and the one u truly loves and not just someone u marry to please ur parents/to piss ur ex/to win that marathon of who marries 1st blah blah blah..
And then u start bein cranky and shit, blaming ur past decision, let regrets haunts ur closet and finally, ur marriage goes down the drain and u end up alone...by then, it’ll be too late to realize that, the one u sacrificed was indeed irreplaceable..was in fact, the only person u ever truly love. Then u jadi gila, ur kids got taken away and u end up in asylum posing a waterworks by the window..wishing for Doraemon to take u back on a time machine.

Ya ya..laugh..laugh..sounds ridiculous? Well now it is..wait till u wake up 30 years from now with a massive black mess engraved in ur history line-up if you hav an intention of pulling this stupid sacrificing stunt in ur relationship..Come on,..probably those soap operas and sandiwara semasa u watched too much hav ruled against all ur better judgement in making decision..but u see, reality bites. Soap operas just makes u go sniff and sobs..which only proves that the directors are doing a great job to ensure u continue subscribing to Astro..u think they’d bail u out of your own mistake? Na-ah…(go pinch urself a lil for that dramatic effect of reality..welcome to the real world, sugarr!)

So, perhaps next time you’d like to think it through with your partner before u guys start mumbling spells while performing a ritual to sacrifice a beautiful relationship. Nothing is perfect. Maybe what u hav in hand just need a lil polishing and extra suspension to absorb trials. Be there for each other thru thick and thin..It’s even more meaningful to be staring at each other one day and whisper ‘We made it!’..In the meantime, save your offering for later days..who knows, someday, a loved one might need your kidney or ur entire savings to continue their Ph.D or something, then you should really ‘sacrifice’ wisely and be blessed for a worthy deed.

Sarifice? Hmmph.. mellow dramatic la you people..